Dear Rev. Lee and O.L.U.,
Visitor Comments (7)The following offer suggestions for dealing with bullying: (1) Pacer's NATIONAL BULLYING PREVENTION CENTER (pacer.org) and (2)HUFFINGTON POST's April 22, 2016 link to How to Talk About Bullying.
I do hope your son has found the help he needs and is now successfully in (or on his way to) college. Achieving success in positive pursuits is sometimes one of the best ways to overcome negative experiences and their perpetrators!
Gay or not, whether it's a phase or not, make sure he knows that you love him unconditionally. Tell him to be proud of himself and that in time he'll be the happier person for being true to himself. It's a good life lesson that not everyone will like him or agree with him. He has to learn to ignore the insults, learn what he can from constructive criticism, build, carry on and be strong.
Gay or not, whether it's a phase or not, make sure he knows that you love him unconditionally. Tell him to be proud of himself and that in time he'll be the happier person for being true to himself. It's a good life lesson that not everyone will like him or agree with him. He has to learn to ignore the insults, learn what he can from constructive criticism, build, carry on and be strong.
As women... we can't teach a young man how to be a man. What God gave me about my son is that we can cultivate our sons through affirmations. We are given as woman the ability to mold, motivate, cultivate and inspire our sons/daughters to be what God has designed them to be...Great. I encourage you to provide daily affirmations for your son and watch him change. Read A Mother's Guide to Affirming Her Son. D. Winters
Encourage your son. He is exactly how God intended him to be. He is being picked on at school not because he is effiminate, but because he is sending off a vibration to attract the teasing. You tell him what a wonderful, beautiful creature of God he is and that from now on he is to go to school with head held high, proud of who he is. Ignore the teasing, do not give any attention or energy to it at all and it will quickly die. If it doesn't, THE BOYS DOING THE TEASING SHOULD GO TO COUNSELING. Or you the Mom may need to go to counseling to learn how to edify your son to be a strong creature of God.
Building his relationship with God will help him realize his position as a man. But, if he is upset and having problem dealing with his peers and his emotions. If i were you i will take him to counseling for awhile. It helps in that our children don't open up to parents at times because of what they might think or for fear of regection. If you feel more comfortable a christian counselor.
As a single parent it is hard at times with our boys but if you go to church maybe there is a brother in the Lord that will be willing to help out and take him out and befriend to search deeper of what could be bothering your son.
Always remember the Lord gives us our children and to teach them the way to go but as individuals they will make their choices. all we can do is pray for them.
what I think is, he just can communicate with females better than he can with other guys. Hanging around females and actting "effeminent" Does not mean he is gay, and as far as people talking about him, just remember to stay your own person and dont worry about what other people say, because it may not seem like it but they are talking about him because of their own insecurities. So as long as he know who he is, it really shouldn't matter what other people say. The only person you should ever worry about and or fear is God.
